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What is Abusive Behaviour?

Take the time and really absorb all the behaviours listed below and see just how deep the rabbit-hole goes and how accepted much of this behaviour is in modern culture today:

Dictionary result for abuse

verb: abuse; 3rd person present: abuses; past tense: abused; past participle: abused; gerund or present participle: abusing


use (something) to bad effect or for a bad purpose; misuse.

"the judge abused his power by imposing the fines"

synonyms:misuse, misapply, misemploy, mishandle; More

  • make excessive and habitual use of (alcohol or drugs, especially illegal ones).

"at various times in her life she abused both alcohol and drugs"

  1. 2.

treat with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly.

"riders who abuse their horses should be prosecuted"

synonyms:mistreat, maltreat, ill-treat, treat badly, ill-use, misuse;

handle/treat roughly, knock about/around, manhandle, mishandle, maul, molest, interfere with, indecently assault, sexually abuse, sexually assault, grope, assault, hit, strike, beat;

injure, hurt, harm, damage;

wrong, bully, persecute, oppress, torture;

informal beat up, rough up, do over

"he was accused of abusing children"

antonyms:look after

  • assault (someone, especially a woman or child) sexually.

"he was a depraved man who had abused his two young daughters"



  • use or treat in such a way as to cause damage or harm.

"he had been abusing his body for years"

  1. 3.

speak to (someone) in an insulting and offensive way.

"the referee was abused by players from both teams"

synonyms:insult, be rude to, swear at, curse, call someone names, taunt, shout at, scold, rebuke, upbraid, reprove, castigate, inveigh against, impugn, slur, revile, smear, vilify, vituperate against, slander, libel, cast aspersions on, offend, slight, disparage, denigrate, defame.

noun: abuse; plural noun: abuses

  1. 1.

the improper use of something.

"alcohol abuse"

synonyms:misuse, misapplication, misemployment, mishandling;

exploitation, perversion

"this law is not going to stop the abuse of power"

  • unjust or corrupt practice.

"protection against fraud and abuse"

synonyms:corruption, injustice, wrongdoing, wrong, misconduct, delinquency, misdeed(s), offence (s), crime, fault, sin

"the scheme is open to political control and administrative abuse"

  1. 2.

cruel and violent treatment of a person or animal.

"a black eye and other signs of physical abuse"

synonyms:mistreatment, maltreatment, ill treatment, ill use, misuse; More


  • violent treatment involving sexual assault, especially on a regular basis.

"young people who have suffered sexual abuse"

  1. 3.

insulting and offensive language.

"waving his fists and hurling abuse at the driver"

synonyms:insults, curses, jibes, slurs, expletives, swear words;

swearing, cursing, name-calling, scolding;

rebukes, upbraiding, reproval, invective, castigation, revilement, vilification, vituperation, slander, libel, slights, disparagement, denigration, defamation;

antonyms: compliments, flattery.

As you can see ABUSE COMES IN MANY FORMS and all of it is evil. Turah teaches us how to love but all the enemy wants is for hatred, unkindness and abuse to come from our vessels. This is the battle Yahusha's Bride must fight between the flesh and the ruach, the daily struggle to give ourselves wholely and solely over to Yahusha's influence, to the splendour of His esteem and loving-kindness. If we do not, then we make every room we enter a pit of misery, and every friend, co-worker, spouse and child an enemy.

PROVERBS 4:23 "Watch over your heart with all diligence, For out of it are the sources of life. 24Turn away from you a crooked mouth, And put perverse lips far from you".

EPHESIANS 4:29 "Let no corrupt word come out of your mouth, but only such as is good for the use of building-up, so as to impart what is pleasant to the hearers. 30And do not grieve the Ruach ha’Qodesh of Yahuah, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31Let all bitterness, and wrath, and displeasure, and uproar, and slander be put away from you, along with all evil. 32And BE KIND towards one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as Yahuah also forgave you in Mashiak".

PROVERBS 12:25 "Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, But a good word makes him glad".

Living with an abusive person can be a literal hell on earth if you allow it to be through your own unbelief, self-pity and complaints. A more intelligent solution is offered in Turah, whereby we allow Yahusha to fight all our battles for us, BUT WE HAVE TO UNLOCK THIS POWER BY OUR OWN BEHAVIOUR. We may not be able to change another person's mind or behaviour, but by listening to Yahusha and training our own behaviour, we will see Yahusha dump loads of hot coals on heads as He flogs and "shall rightly repay with affliction those who afflict you". 2 THESS 1:6

THE ONLY DELIVERANCE FROM THIS CONTROLLING CYCLE OF ABUSIVE BEHAVIOUR IS BY THE BLOOD OF YAHUSHA, who washes us clean and trains us by flogging, rebuking, disciplining and chastising (HEB12), until we give over to Him and desire to produce the fruits of righteousness, that's right, we're not forced too, WE WANT TO GIVE OVER AND LET LOVE FLOW FROM OUR VESSEL, we would suffer anything from anyone around us without complaint FOR THE JOY that results from such surrender, FOR THE INTOXICATING DRUNKEN-LIONIZING LOVE that bubbles up inside us, no matter what aches and pains our carcass is feeling - a deep passionate love affair with Yahusha that no amount of unkindness or abuse can quench.

If a messenger were to follow you around all day recording how many uplifting positive words you spoke and offset them against all the negative talk, what would your tally-sheet look like? (and that's just the words! . . . what about thoughts!)

Go for the gold brothers and sisters, surrender everything you think you are and become an obedient vessel for Yahusha's behaviour today, and if there are people in your life that behave the abuses above (including yourself) . . . . that is what Yahusha gave us the 3 Rules for . . . to wheel and deal !!

By Mark Davidson . . .